How Healthy Are Your Relationships?

People are rushing around like crazy to get their outdoor spaces cleaned up and organised in preparation for the arrival of spring because it is almost here. Some households perform the traditional spring cleaning rituals, but what about the important things, like who you are and who you associate with? If you haven’t done so already, now would be an excellent time to conduct an internal review.

Are there people in your life who, rather than making you feel uplifted, they leave you feeling drained? Are you lifted up by the people in your life, or are you brought down by them? Do you ever take stock of your life and ask, “Am I where I want to be?” in terms of your career and your relationships? Do I really want to act in this manner? Do I want this to be the way that people remember me? Do I really want to live my life like this? Take a look at your answers, and if they don’t paint a positive picture for you, take a look around you and see what you can influence. What is it that you can alter?

Are there people in your life who exhibit the characteristics and behaviours that you want, or are you surrounded by people who exhibit all of the things that you don’t want and don’t like? If the former, do you have people in your life who exhibit the characteristics and behaviours that you want? If the answers are favourable for you, then I want to congratulate you on living the life that you have always dreamed of leading.

If this is not the case, I am not suggesting that you get rid of everyone who is not congruent with where you want to be, who you want to be, or the values you want to live by; however, as a first step, you could possibly reduce the amount of time you spend with those individuals.

It is up to each of us to decide what changes we want to make in our lives and then put those decisions into action; change does not occur on its own. Finding your tipping point and moving in the direction of living the life you want to be living can be as simple as taking baby steps. Change, even positive change, can often be accompanied by some level of discomfort.

If you want to regain your energy, just follow these three steps:

  • Acquire the ability to recognise the signs of people who bring you down or drain your energy; one of the most basic questions to ask yourself is whether or not you enjoy being in their company. Do you feel like you’ve been given a boost when you leave?
  • Either limit your contact with them or eliminate it altogether; do whatever works best for you.
  • Refrain from getting involved in their conflict.

A positive attitude and supportive relationships are priceless commodities. Do not willingly hand over your power or energy to those who do not merit it. Maintain your concentration on what it is that you want, tell yourself on a daily basis what you have to be thankful for, and surround yourself with happy, optimistic people who make you feel energised and upbeat.

Solutions provided by Debbie Lanyon – Make yourself the agent of change you want to see in the world.

Debbie Lanyon is a certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Wellness Consultant, and Life Coach with many years of experience assisting clients, during which time she has achieved an astoundingly high rate of success.

Whether you are an individual looking for support or a business wanting to tackle employee stress, resilience, and wellness, Debbie can offer packages that enable you to overcome, and thrive in, whatever situation you find yourself in!

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